Having fear for someone you love is a block to truly loving them. Being afraid for the health, safety, well being or choices that another person is making leads to a response based not in their need but in yours. Any action you take to 'help' them is really an unconscious attempt to manage your own fear by directing, managing or controlling them in a way that lessens your own conflict. Looked at honestly it can be seen that this is not really about helping the other person at all but is really just a way of helping yourself.
If you find a person resists your attempts to assist them ask yourself honestly what you are really trying to do. Focusing on your own fear only reinforces theirs. Focusing on trust and peace within yourself reinforces the possibility of them making the same choice for themselves. What we believe is missing in any situation is always what we are not giving. Love and fear cannot coexist in your mind. If you're choosing one then you are rejecting the other. If they are afraid then they have already rejected love and so love is clearly what is needed.
Being willing to release fear, to release your own judgment about what they need or how they should be, frees your mind to simply love and be present. Your mind is freed to actually see THEM instead of only seeing your own need. From this space, without the blinders of your own fear, it will be clear what they need from you in order to move towards healing. Sometimes this need takes the form of specific action and any action you take will be TRULY loving, being an extension of the loving space you have already chosen for yourself. And sometimes they may just simply need a loving, non-judgmental presence beside them. In truth all that someone needs in order to move towards healing themselves is to be given an already healed perception of what they are, to be shown the reflection of the truth they are still unable to see in themselves. And in the process you will discover that it is really yourself that you are healing and learning to love without fear.
